Buy-In: A book review by Bob Morris
Buy-In: Saving Your Good Idea from Getting Shot Down
John P. Kotter and Lofrne A. Whitehead
Harvard Business Press (2010)
Not everyone can formulate what Steve Jobs characterizes as “insanely great” ideas but most people can generate good ideas, those worthy of careful consideration. For various reasons, many (most?) of these ideas are rejected…especially if they seem to threaten what James O’Toole characterizes as “the ideology of comfort and the tyranny of custom.” John Kotter and Lorne Whitehead offer a method in this book by which to “save” a good idea from “getting shot down” and the method proposed is itself a good idea in that it is sensible, practical, and one almost anyone can follow. However, as presumably Kotter and Whitehead agree, it is first necessary to develop a mindset that embraces several principles:
• Those who oppose an idea should have the opportunity to explain their objections.
• Their participation in the discussion should be welcomed, and treated with respect.
• Before responding to an objection, reassure them that you understand it. Then offer a response that is direct, relevant, crystal clear, and sensible.
• Over time, win opponents’ minds with logic and evidence and their hearts with respect.
• Maintain frequent and cordial contact with opponents whom you respect; meanwhile, keep an eye on the few attackers who are potentially disruptive.
Note: Those you respect probably view them the same way you do. Retain an “open door” policy but keep in mind the African aphorism: “trust but verify.” Also, that reasonable people can agree to disagree without being disagreeable.
Kotter and Whitehead organize their material within two parts. “The Centerville Story” is a business narrative during which a “brave few” defend an idea in a crowd of 75, in a room for several hours.
Note: Kotter co-authored an earlier book, Our Iceberg Is Melting: Changing and Succeeding Under Any Conditions, with Peter Mueller in which eight principles of decision-making under duress are effectively dramatized, in this instance by penguins in a specific setting.
There is also a specific setting in the first part of Buy-In but Kotter and Whitehead acknowledge, “we have found that the attacks shown in the story can be seen anywhere: with back-and-forth emails across continents; then people at lunch or in a classroom; a paper sent to a thousand employees; a series of two or twenty-two meetings; or dueling memos.” They are remarkably effective raconteurs.
In the second part of this book, “The Method,” Kotter and Whitehead become analytical, “showing explicitly what was happening in the story,” They identify four common attack strategies (i.e. fear mongering, delay, confusion, and ridicule of character assassination) and explain their method for avoiding or overcoming the strategies. They also identify and discuss 24 “questions and concerns” that most frequently come into play when ideas or proposals come under attack.
Although Kotter and Whitehead seem to have covered rather thoroughly the “what” of buy-in, their greatest achievement consists of the nature and extent of how brilliantly they explain the “how.” In the Appendix, they review “The Eight Steps to Successful, Large-Scale Change” (Pages 182-184) and I presume to suggest that this material not be read until after re-reading (at least once, preferably twice) what John Kotter and Lorne Whitehead have to say about The Method and the “Twenty-Four Attacks and the Twenty-Four Responses.” Most change initiatives fail and the reasons vary. However, none can succeed without (a) wide and deep buy-in among those in the given enterprise and (b) a shared sense of urgency to achieve the given changes.
Where to begin? Read this book and Kotter’s previous book, A Sense of Urgency.
A Quote for the Day from Twyla Tharp – Aim for Better!
What’s wrong with getting better? The libraries, archives, and museums are packed with early bloomers and one-trick ponies who said everything they had to say in their first novel, who could only compose one good tune, whose canvases kept repeating the same dogged theme. My respect has always gone to those who are in it for the long haul. (People) abandon their gift through a failure of perspiration.Twyla Tharp, The Creative Habit
Aim for better! Get better at what you do — and then, keep getting better. It is the never-ending challenge.
Andrew O’Connell on “Sensitive Men: It’s Your Glass Ceiling Too”
Here is an excerpt from an article written by Andrew O’Connell for the Harvard Business Review blog. To read the complete article, check out other articles and resources, and/or sign up for a free subscription to Harvard Business Review’s Daily Alerts, please click here.
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If you’re a caring and empathic guy, but you’ve noticed that you’re a lot more likely to come home from work with a headache than a promotion, chances are you’ve been banging into a glass ceiling — the same glass ceiling that stops women from rising to the C suite.
A team led by Mark C. Frame of Middle Tennessee State University finds that the higher you go on the corporate ladder, the more you’re among people who put a lot of stock in assertiveness and independence — what psychologists call “agentic” qualities — rather than on such things as caring about others’ feelings.
Get near the top, and people are all about action. Tasks. Results. That, according to Frame and his colleagues, lends “support to the idea that success and upward mobility in corporate environments may require more task-focused behaviors” and fewer behaviors displaying what are known as “communal” qualities.
The findings, based on attitudes data from more than 14,000 people, apply to both men and women. Thus, “it could be that the glass ceiling has more to do with communal versus agentic behaviors than it does with gender,” the researchers say.
In other words, the glass ceiling may be about how you roll, not what sex you are. It may block anyone who places great importance on selflessness or concern for others. Kinda scary, when you think about it.
If you’re a sensitive guy, you’ve probably sensed the presence of this barrier all along. You might even have heard once or twice that you’re “too nice to get promoted.” Yet you know you’d be a better boss than those task-oriented managers, many of whom have zero people skills.
Is there a way to break through? Frame has been looking at this question in the context of female employees, because women tend to be more communal oriented. So far, he hasn’t found a definitive answer. But he has some thoughts, and they apply to communal-oriented men as well.
“The answer likely has something to do with learning how to play roles within the organization,” he says. “I suspect that the key to being a communal-oriented manager is to be able to bring out your agentic styles when needed.”
If it’s stressful to play up the task-oriented side of your personality while submerging the caring side, you can look beyond the workplace for relief: “Having a social or familial network in which to express communal styles outside of work may be helpful for men who wish to succeed by being more agentic but maintain their inner communal qualities,” Frame says.
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Andrew O’Connell is an editor with the Harvard Business Review Group.




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